Why You Should Stop Finding “Purpose” This Year ⋆ LonerWolf

This is the beginning of a new month. New year. Everyone is clamoring for you to “set goals,” “set your annual goals,” make lists, and journal about the things you want to change.

Others completely abandon the “new year, new you” propaganda and go in the opposite direction: “you’re fine,” “resolutions don’t work,” “do X instead.”

Yes, it is predictable. But it still leaves you in the same place: wondering how the hell to navigate your upcoming journey.

If you’re like most sensitive peoplethis time of year you feel lost. Maybe a little overwhelmed and overwhelmed with all the information.

But deep down you still want to find your purpose and pursue it. So I’m going to keep it short and sweet and cut through the noise.

My experience of losing purpose

I used to want to find my purpose.

Sometimes I still believe in this fantasy, thinking that it will be the solution to my problems.

But the goal is a impermanent being.

Would you believe I’ve lost and regained my aim about ten or more times in my years of running Lonerwolf? That struggle is the silent desperation that goes on behind the scenes—one that feels like a roller coaster of exhilarating highs and profound lows.

If I based my life on “finding purpose” I probably would have closed Lonerwolf years ago in one of those moments of sadness and self-doubt.

But I continued. why?

I continue to do what I do because I know my deepest truths.

I know mine basic needs center around be creative and make a differenceand mine core values focus on love, freedom and contribution.

Of course, there are other elements here that I won’t go into now. But without knowing these guiding lights, I would be completely lost in the dark.

Why you should stop looking for “goals” this year

It’s easy to make decisions when you know what your values ​​are. — Roy Disney

Let me get straight to the point. Search your “goal” is a poor use of your time and energy because it is an externally driven goal.

Purpose is not something you “find” there.

It’s something you “feel” inside as a result living in alignment with your core needs and values.

A goal is not a destination – it is a side effect alignment.

Read that sentence again, slowly.

Direct pursuit of a goal is like chasing a rainbow. You’ll never catch it! But if you stand where the sunlight hits the water droplets (aka alignment), you’ll have the pleasure of seeing this beautiful multi-colored wonder again and again.

Here’s another analogy:

So many people try to build the “house” of their life (Purpose) before laying the foundation (Values). But without this solid foundation, the house simply crumbles when the wind of life comes.

This is why you continue to struggle to find your purpose in life: you are searching external answers to an internal problem.

You don’t have a problem with the goal. You have a values problem.

What I recommend doing instead

Your soul knows the geography of your destiny. Only your soul has the map of your future. ― John O’Donoghue

First, stop trying to “find” your purpose. It’s a maddening exercise that wastes time and energy. That’s a bad way to start the new year.

Instead start to figure out your core needs and values. This is a much wiser use of your time.

A helpful first question to ask yourself is:

“If you could live by three values ​​for the rest of your life, which would you choose?”

Do it for yours basic needs too.

Next, to test the strength of your choice, you can ask this question:

“Without it in my life, do I feel like a fundamental part of me is missing, exhausted, empty, or unfulfilled?”

If your answer is a quick yes, then great! If you’re still hesitating or not sure your answer is confident enough, go back to thinking.

Here I have given you two strong questions to start with.

But if you’re hesitating, feeling chronically stuck in life, or in the dark, you don’t have to figure it out alone.

Sometimes we need a clear path to help us bypass the confusion of the mind and get straight to the truth of our Soul.

If you want to stop guessing and know with 100% certainty what your foundation is, I’ve created a special process for that. The Compass of mental work designed to take you out of the cycle of “seeking” and into clarity and alignment.

Stop looking for purpose. Start building your inner compass.

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You don’t need a “new you” this year. You just need to find and align with your Soul’s inner compass.

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Alignment, direction, purpose

Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony. — Mahatma Gandhi

Alignment – not target is the key word to focus on here. How aligned are you with your deepest needs and values? How consistent are your daily choices and habits?

Because if you don’t align with these deeper truths of your soul, you will continue to wander in the dark, wondering, “Why do I feel so meaningless and lost?”

Alignment → Direction → Target.

Here’s how it works.

Let me know what you get in response to the two questions in this post in the comments.

Stay true to yourself and Happy New Year. 😉