A person’s true character is not always easy to see. But if you pay attention to the gestures and words they use, you can determine the truth about them.
Although we would like to think that all people are genuine, someone’s true character is not always obvious. Sometimes true feelings are hidden behind a facade, and not everyone can catch these little things body language and emotions. However, some patterns reveal more information behind the words people say.
How to reveal someone’s true character
It takes time to understand the true motive behind what people do or say. You may think they are generous and kind, but in reality some will go out of their way to be noticed. It is important to listen carefully to the emotions behind the words.
Here are some phrases that reveal someone’s true character. Let’s examine them together.
1. “I hate drama.”
People who really hate drama don’t need to announce that fact. They usually just go about their business. People who hide their true nature often tell everyone around them how much they hate drama. Then they might even tell a story about how they got rid of the drama.
Amazing, really. But usually these people not only love drama, but also create it this same drama myself
2. “I’m not trying to be mean, but…”
When you hear this, just know that someone is really going say something mean. They are just preparing you for the onslaught. It’s like being kissed right before you get punched. Sounds terrifying, right? When you understand how this phrase works, you will notice the true nature of many people. This is a common way for people to justify their cruelty.
3. “I’m just being honest.”
Such a statement is usually heard immediately after harsh criticism. it says
“I’m going to say something sharp and defend myself if I hurt your feelings.”
That’s all this statement really is – just a way to avoid responsibility for using harsh words. You will learn the true character of a person by noticing how quickly he takes responsibility not only for his actions, but also for his words.
This phrase is very similar to the one I mentioned earlier. One simply announces a strong statement, while the other is used to defend a strong statement. Both of these statements show someone’s character flaws.
4. “Actually…”
I know someone who uses this phrase to convey a combination of low self-esteem, superiority, and bullying. For some strange reason, when you talk about what you know, they like to prove you wrong or say something more intellectual. And if they fail to shake you up or upset you, they usually walk away from the conversation.
Sometimes this behavior is annoying, but usually other people figure out what’s going on after a while. You see, these phrases are often repeated.
5. “I don’t have time for this.”
This phrase can be used in many negative situations. The person may really not care about your problems and say so. They want you to believe that they really don’t have time for your drama. They are trying to make you look like the bad guy with this statement.
And so far there is guilt for not being in a hurrythey laugh quietly, knowing that they once again shirked their duties.
6. “Oh, it wouldn’t be me!”
This may seem like a strange statement, but it speaks volumes about someone. If you see a person making fun of another person, you can say: “Oh, it wouldn’t be me!” as if you would not tolerate such treatment.
People who say this look down on others and think they are better than them. But you don’t know that. When you hear someone laugh and say this, just know that they are revealing their true nature. They are probably not as smart and cruel as they seem.
7. “Respect has been earned.”
Look, that’s a false statement. Everyone deserves respect, whether you know them or not. To discover someone’s true character, ask them if they feel that respect is given or earned. Their response will tell you how open they are.
Other ways to reveal someone’s true character
Not only their words will tell the truth about them, but also them body language will be too. Someone with a shady personality will behave differently depending on who is around. Keep an eye out for that too.
They may even change their mannerisms depending on these factors. If they really love helping people, they won’t care about getting attention for what they do. Pay attention to those who constantly make announcements every time they do a good deed. This is a red flag.
In addition, character of a good person will manifest itself through every mistake or emotion-driven action. No one is perfect, but some have more empathy than others. Some like to see others happy, and some feed on the happiness of others. Paying close attention to what people say will help you understand your limits. You will learn who is easier to trust and who needs to be loved from a distance.
I hope these phrases will help you figure it out for yourself and keep you safe. Remember, learning someone’s true character can even save your life.
Be blessed
Staff writer in Training the mind
Sherry Heard is a professional writer and artist with over 20 years of experience. As a survivor of childhood trauma and multiple forms of abuse, she is an advocate for mental health awareness. Sherry treats several mental illnesses, including anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder. With this background and personal experience, she is committed to helping others overcome trauma and abuse, cope with mental illness, and heal over time.
