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Does your girlfriend’s silence sometimes drive you crazy? You’re probably thinking of ignoring her when she cools off. The question is, should it be done?
When you stop pursuing women, you unconsciously become more attractive to them. Women begin to see you as a high-value man when you don’t actively pursue them. By not chasing them, you position yourself “above them”, increasing your desirability.
This approach arouses their curiosity and they become more interested in spending time with you and getting to know you. Demonstrating that you know how to handle a woman who suddenly becomes distant demonstrates your superiority over desperate men who would react otherwise. As a result, you become a more desirable man than she first thought.
Here are a few reasons why you should:
Teach her to appreciate you
1. It lets her know that her behavior is unacceptable.
If you constantly allow others to treat you a certain way, they will insist on it. Therefore, setting clear boundaries between acceptable and unacceptable behavior is critical. Failure to do so may inadvertently condone rude and disrespectful behavior.
Once you declare that unexcused mistreatment is not acceptable, the other person must choose to continue the behavior. If they want to maintain a relationship with you, they need to communicate maturely and respectfully when something is wrong.
2. It shows her that you respect yourself.
The ability to ignore a woman when she is cold towards you shows how much you see your worth. It shows that your self-respect does not allow you to accept disrespect from others.
In order to be an attractive man, it is important to show a sense of self-worth, not giving in to a woman’s demands and not showing irritation when she pulls away from you. This behavior shows that you hold yourself in high regard, regardless of her views, and if she recognizes this characteristic, she will be more inclined to stay with you.
3. It prevents toxic behavior.
It’s important not to reward someone for treating you badly or acting against the terms of your relationship. Consider this scenario: she is distant from you for no apparent reason or for trivial reasons. In return, you shower her with attention and affection. Isn’t that equivalent to saying “Treat me badly so I can spoil you”? That’s how he seems to you, and probably that’s how she perceives him.
A manipulative woman will see this behavior as vulnerability and manipulate it to her advantage. A non-manipulative woman can subconsciously pick up on your reaction and use it to get your attention and affection the next time she gets upset over something minor. Despite this, such behavior is harmful to health and does not bring any benefit.
Teaches you to value yourself
4. It allows you to define your standards.
It is not only girls who have to set the standards in choosing the right life partner. Men have the right to look for their ideal partner in a woman according to the qualities of their dreams. Moreover, women are attracted to men with specific qualities and are confident in their preservation. If someone is willing to make a full commitment and go all out, they must recognize their value and strive to provide something attractive that others will want to return to.
So ignoring your girlfriend when she’s cold towards you shows her that you’re not afraid of losing her if she doesn’t try to treat you right. This sends her a signal that you know what you want in a woman, including the ability to respect you.
5. It teaches you the importance of self-preservation.
In order to have a relationship with you, a woman must accept you as you choose to be. By ignoring her, you’re implying that there are parts of yourself you don’t want to reveal, and that she might find a better match elsewhere. She can accept the situation or try to get what she wants by confronting you. If she chooses to confront you, it means that she is unhappy with the current state of your relationship.
6. It reminds you not to despair over a woman who doesn’t appreciate you.
If a girl loses interest in you, including being cold most of the time, it could mean that you are no longer attracted to her. Constant attempts to win her over, giving her excessive attention and treating her as a special person, can only irritate her. As mentioned above, people, including women, are more attracted to partners who don’t chase them.
Ignoring her means admitting that there’s no reason to pursue someone who isn’t interested in you. Also, it proves that you are not desperate for her love.
7. It proves you’re good at rejection.
Ignoring a woman who has become emotionally distant is the recommended approach to dealing with the situation. By taking rejection in stride, women will admire you and feel attracted to your behavior when they renew their interest. When a woman understands that you are not so easily put off, she will start to recognize and respect your boundaries more quickly.
The right way to do it
You may worry that ignoring her when she cools down will only make things worse. To achieve your goal of getting her to treat you better, here are some tips on how to do it right:
1. Limit communication and don’t be necessary.
Inquiries about her day may lead her to reveal her exit plans. It is enough to answer with a short “that sounds nice” and not go into the details of her exit and who she will be with.
2. Ignore her, but don’t go too far.
Try to ignore her if she ignores you. Don’t start conversations with. However, answer whenever she speaks to you first. If she asks about something, answer, but don’t try to drag the conversation on.
3. Don’t make excuses to approach her.
Avoid making excuses to start a conversation with her, as this is an immature tactic that she will quickly discover. Don’t make contact without a good reason other than to get her to talk to you.
4. Avoid the urge to reply to her messages immediately or every time.
This is one of the weaknesses of those who struggle with capricious partners. If you give in easily to your girlfriend every time she texts you, she will think she has power over you. Let her wait for your response and don’t feel obligated to reply to every message you get from her.
Final thoughts
One way to prevent your girlfriend from disrespecting you is to ignore her when she pulls away. This can set clear boundaries and show that you respect yourself. However, it is important to use this approach correctly and not to be manipulative or immature.
Ignore her cold behavior only if it is unjustified and attempts to understand her behavior are met with hostility or disrespect. It can be difficult to distance yourself, but it is necessary when the behavior is unjustified. If your partner is mature and values the relationship, she will reach out to solve the problem and acknowledge her negative behavior. Remember that respect is vital to love and a woman cannot truly love someone she does not respect.
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Joan is a freelance blogger who enjoys writing about personal development. She also enjoys learning and teaching languages. A Communication Arts graduate, she is currently pursuing a Master’s degree in Language Teaching. She enjoys mobile photography, writes poetry and reads in her spare time.
