Even though you’ve shown him a lot of care and attention, sometimes the best way to make him really want you is to stop showing it so much. It’s natural to worry about the potential negative effects of withdrawal, but sometimes it can be beneficial for your own well-being. That’s probably why you want to learn how to distract yourself to make him want you.
Getting a guy to want you by creating distance doesn’t have to be a complicated process. My advice would be to keep things simple and avoid overthinking. You probably have a lot of positive qualities to offer in a relationship and he should be lucky to have you. That’s why you don’t need to overdo it to charm him. Here are some tips that can help you win him over.
This time choose yourself
1. Be Miss Independent.
You don’t have to do anything extraordinary to make this happen. You already have a job, pay your own bills, and buy yourself anything you want, all without having to be in a relationship. You embody the qualities of a strong, independent woman, and he will definitely notice it.
2. Focus on yourself.
It may sound crazy, but the easiest way to get a guy to want you is to create distance and focus on your own life. You don’t even need to put in any extra effort or make any changes – just keep doing what you’re already doing. Stay on top of your career, spend time with friends, and pursue your interests, and he won’t be able to resist your allure.
3. Show him you’re living your best life.
Once you’ve moved away from him, it’s time for the fun stuff – have fun! Show him that you are living your life to the fullest and that he is not your priority. Take advantage of social media to showcase all the fun events and activities you attend, whether it’s dinners, hikes, or parties. Share pictures of your adventures on your Instagram story and make a big profit out of them. By doing this, you will drive him crazy because he will know that you are in high demand and your social life is vibrant.
4. Laugh more.
Men find it attractive when women laugh, especially if they think they are the reason for it, as long as they are not the object of the laughter. Making a woman laugh boosts a man’s ego and makes him more interested in being around her to bask in her laughter. So, if you make a guy feel like he’s funny, he’s more likely to be attracted to you.
5. Show off how smart you are.
Just as many women find intelligent men attractive, many men are also attracted to intelligent women, especially those who lack knowledge or are less experienced. Such men are intrigued by women smarter than them. If you look knowledgeable and well-read, men are more likely to be attracted to you and think about a future with you.
6. Always look your best.
After expressing your doubts to him, improve your appearance to look attractive and confident. You can change your hair or apply makeup to look more stunning, or you can opt for a full facelift with lip injections or fillers. The idea is to look incredible and make him insecure about how he looks around you. Not only will this make him want you more, but it will also make him regret not treating you well enough in the past.
7. Unleash your potential.
Pulling away from a man can give you a sense of power, which is always a great feeling. If you want to feel even more powerful and make him want you even more, start by focusing on yourself. Instead of looking outside for solutions to your problems, look within and tap into your personal power.
8. See your friends more often.
Learning to pull away to make a man want you can be difficult, but sometimes it can be a game changer to instill in a man the fear of losing you if he is truly in love with you. One way to do this is to spend more time with the people in your life, such as friends or family. If your partner asks about your whereabouts, just tell them you’re hanging out with friends and don’t give away too many details. Even if a man takes you for granted, he would not want to lose you because of the unpredictability of life and his own behavior.
9. Travel a lot.
Show that guy that you’re living the life you’ve only ever dreamed of – without him. Travel a lot and post travel photos on social media. If he still likes you, he’ll probably feel bad that he can’t be with you on those relaxing adventures to those places you’ve always wanted to visit.
10. Build your confidence.
Confidence is critical when it comes to attracting guys. If you exude confidence and think you’re a catch, a man will find you desirable. It is very important to show that you are comfortable in your own skin and that you believe that any man would be lucky to be with you. If you firmly believe in your worth, men will notice and be attracted to you.
Keep your distance
11. His ghost.
Cut off all contact with him and disappear as if you disappeared without a trace. why? Because sometimes the best answer is not to answer at all. If you become his ghost, he will wonder what happened and why you were silent. If he knows you’re no longer in his life, he’ll be too busy trying to win you back to notice anything else.
12. Ignore his messages and calls.
While pulling away, it’s important not to let him feel like he’s the center of your world. If he texts you, don’t respond right away. Wait a few hours before responding, but make it clear that you’re not too concerned. This will make him confused and interested in your actions, which will drive him crazy. If you don’t respond to his messages, he will try harder to contact you. In this situation, it is very important not to answer his calls and messages.
13. Discard a silent healing card.
This strategy is especially effective if you live with your partner. A week of silence with him can make him think about his actions and reflect on what he could have done to upset you. This time out will help him develop his own solutions or plans to make things better for both of you. It is very important to let him know that his actions have consequences and that you are not pushing or exposing yourself. If he realizes that you are not always available for him and that he needs to work to save the relationship, he will reevaluate his commitment to you.
14. Tell him you don’t need him.
Acting indifferent and uninterested is what teenagers do, and as an adult, you should be open about what you’re attracted to. However, you must also say that you are self-sufficient and that your happiness does not depend on him. You can live without him and you’ll be fine even if he doesn’t reciprocate. This attitude can paradoxically make him want you more.
15. Don’t wait for Him.
You don’t want to be left wondering if he’s going to wake up one day and end it all or propose to you. That’s why he needs to make a commitment and be clear about his intentions. Even if things don’t work out, you’ll at least know you were both sincere. If he doesn’t want to make a commitment, don’t wait for him to change his mind. You don’t have to be with someone who isn’t sure about their feelings. By pulling away, you show him that you are serious and will not tolerate being treated badly.
Make him regret not paying attention to you
16. Let him feel guilty.
Although it can be difficult, one approach is to make him feel responsible for your unhappiness in order to move forward. It’s important to let him know specifically what’s bothering you, without leaving any ambiguity or room for him to try to fix things. This will help him understand that he did something wrong and cannot just “fix it”.
17. Make him miss you.
It’s a fact that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Therefore, it is very important to give your partner some space and time to miss you. Try to leave your partner thinking when you return. You don’t have to tell him when you’ll be back, and even simple things like going out to dinner with friends or driving around the block can make him worry about you. This gives your partner time to reflect on what they did wrong and what they can do to improve your relationship.
18. Try to make him jealous.
Make him jealous. Using social media, you can change your profile pictures or post pictures of yourself with other guys. Men tend to get jealous easily, and even if you don’t have other guys in your life, make it seem like there are plenty of other men interested in you. This will make him realize that he is just one of the many options you have and he will need to improve to have any chance of getting back with you.
19. Challenge him to improve himself first.
This is a strategy that will help him understand that he needs to change his behavior and attitude before you can think about reconciliation. Be honest with him and tell him that his current behavior is unacceptable and not conducive to a healthy relationship. This will encourage him to make the necessary changes to improve himself and your relationship. He needs to understand that you won’t just ignore his negative traits and that he needs to work to earn your forgiveness and trust again.
Go for it
While this list covers some effective ways to get him to chase you, it is not an exhaustive list of all possible strategies. Using this tactic may make some progress in getting him to pursue you, but there may be other methods that can work as well. Eventually, if you follow these guidelines, you will be able to get him to change his negative attitude and behavior towards you.
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Joan is a freelance blogger who enjoys writing about personal development. She also enjoys learning and teaching languages. A Communication Arts graduate, she is currently pursuing a Master’s degree in Language Teaching. She enjoys mobile photography, writes poetry and reads in her free time.
